My name is Angela McGuire and I am the mom to Courtney (11), Sydney (10), and Sarah Grace (22months). I am a full-time stay at home mom with a part-time gig selling Nerium. I also coach my oldest daughter’s 6th grade volleyball team. I played volleyball from 6th grade until I graduated college. I then begin my college coaching career in 2002 at Converse College in Spartanburg, SC. I love being married into the baseball life and I try to do as much for the team as the coach’s wife that my schedules allows for me to do. I also started blogging about being a coach’s wife among other things about a year ago called AFullCount.
Where did you and your husband meet?
We met back in 2003 in Greenwood, SC, while we were both coaching college ball. He took a job at Lander University a year before I became the head volleyball coach there. Although, we fell pretty quickly once we started dating it wasn’t love at first sight for either of us (lol).
Tell us a little about your team including the city that you live in.
We currently live in Morehead, KY, where my husband is the head baseball coach at Morehead State University. This spring marks our 5th season here with this group of coaches. We’ve been really fortunate that we’ve had the same staff and spouses here since we took over back in 2012. We’ve only had one coach leave, but the rest have all remained in our time here. He has an incredible team – a group of guys that even my daughters have had the chance to get to know. For them it’s like having 35 older brothers.
Morehead is a small, eastern KY town with about 8,000 people in the city and maybe double that in the country. Very rural, blue collar town with some of the most genuine, sports-supporting people we’ve know in a long time.
What is your most memorable and worst sporting experience to date?
My most memorable moment would have to be when Coach lead his 2015 Eagles, in just his 3rd season at MSU, to a conference championship and it’s first-ever Regional appearance. I only got to watch it via a webcast as I was giving birth to our 3rd daughter. But regardless, the night after she was born they won the OVC. It was so very exciting to watch it all happen. Of course I would have given my right leg to be there but that was pretty much out of the question at that time of the year! That’s real life as a coach’s wife!
My worst sporting experience wouldn’t be something that happened at his job. I was a college coach myself back in 2011 and because of the many moves that happen during his coaching “life-cycle” I had to leave a position that I saw myself being at indefinitely. He was up for a job at a previous university and when he did not get the job I was ultimately forced to leave my position. It was the hardest thing I had to do professionally to-date.
How does coach motivate you and vice versa?
I am truly my guy’s biggest fan. I love his job and although it gets incredibly hectic having three kids and trying to manage their schedule, I am so proud of how much he loves what he does. He truly loves to see his players grow personally and professionally and allows me to be a part of that in every way imaginable. My baseball IQ is definitely not at his level but he asks a lot about personal player development and my opinions when it comes to handling matters that relate to each kid. That means so much to me. I do everything in my power to make sure that the girls are at every game that their schedules allow for and even take road trips so that Dad is fully present even when he is at work. I encourage him to be not only the best coach possible, but Dad as well.
Coach motivates me by “coaching” me, lol. I think that’s the only way he knows how! He’s amazing at knowing that I love being a coach’s wife so he finds little things that I can do to help with the team – like team dinners, having us ride the bus after games (so long as they win), allowing the girls and me to do small, personal touches like baking snacks for road trips and really allowing for us to get to know all the parents as well. He knows being a stay at home mom isn’t always the most inspirational but he continuously tells me what a huge support I am to him and that if I did not own the role I do, it would make it tough for him to do his job. It’s truly a give and give type of relationship.
What tips can you provide to other coaching spouses?
PATIENCE. Have lots of it. I can’t count the number of times we’d be waiting for him to make it home from practice with dinner ready and him call and say he’d be about 45 minutes late because of player/administrator/recruit issues. It really used to get me pretty upset but I’ve learned that we have to go about life at times as if he weren’t going to be around. It’s very tough at times but it’s a must.
PRAYER! That’s a big one. I’ve been married to Coach for almost 13 years so I’ve been around for 14 baseball seasons. I’ve learned to dive deep into my personal relationship with the Lord and it has grounded me in many ways. Being a coach’s wife is a VERY SELFLESS job. You have no choice but to be a giver: to your kids, to his players, to the job, to the player’s parents, to the media, etc. I’ve given up a lot of my desires that I once had to help him grow in his role. It is NOT easy but because I feel that I have been called to raise my children as a stay-at-home mom, all while encouraging and supporting Coach in his job, I need to be okay with that role THE Lord has placed upon me.
Whats one word or phrase you can use to describe your uncommon life?
Unpredictable. That is a really tough thing for me, too. I am a planner, a scheduler, so when a rain out occurs or a six-day road trip has turned into 10, I get pretty uneasy. We do not live by family so I’ve learned to reach out to friends to help get my girls places and to have relationships while he is so busy. We go at break-neck speeds come January and there can be times when he’ll text me that instead of them playing at home that weekend the weather has made it a road-trip. It makes my head spin just thinking about it!
What are three things that your experience as a coach’s spouse has taught you.
- It has taught me to have a sense of humor. Life is hard and fun and crazy and full of ups and downs. The only way to get through it is to be able to laugh about it.
- Build relationships. Even if you know you’re only going to be at a school for a short amount of time you need your sisterhood to get you through those lonely moments when you’re spouse is gone and when you want them there to celebrate those amazing accomplishments! Learn to lean on one another.
- They love what they do but they love you more! They might not always show it but they really do and they would not be able to do it without you.
What advice would you give to other coaching spouses?
You are called for this ride. It will be hard but the amazing bonuses will far outweigh those tough times. Be there for your spouse and don’t take things to personally (I’ve learned that one the hard way) when they come home and spout off about things or forget to empty the trash for the 20th time! Cultivate and grow a life for your family that involves, but does NOT revolve around the job. It is a big part of your lives but it is not everything. Enjoy the ride with all it’s bumps and turns and no matter how time consuming it can be, make time for each other. Lastly, love your spouse through it all.
Thank you, Angela! It is always great to read each story of those we share the uncommon wife life with. I thought I was alone when I say that my coach motivates me by “coaching”! I am glad I am not alone…it must run in the coaching genes.
Again, thank you, Angela, for sharing your uncommon life as a coach’s wife.
The Uncommon Wife.