My name is Misty Spradlin. I am a 2009 graduate of Alice Lloyd College, am from Mud Creek (a small town in Floyd County, Kentucky), a coal miner’s daughter, a coach’s wife, and stay-at-home momma to our son, Bentley. My husband is Preston. He and I met as freshmen at Betsy Layne High School and started dating our senior year. We married in 2010 and spent four years in Lexington, Kentucky, with the University of Kentucky (UK) Wildcats.
We currently reside in Morehead, Kentucky, where Preston is an assistant for the Morehead State Eagles (MSU). Our son, Bentley, considers all the players his big brothers and I admire each unique relationship he has with them. Our team was injury stricken this season, but we finished strong, making a good run in the Ohio Valley Conference (OVC) tournament. We are already anticipating next season.
What is your most memorable and worst sporting experience to date?
My most memorable sporting experience to date would be seeing my husband coach his first game as an assistant. Seeing him living out OUR dream, loving what he does, and being pretty good at it, if I do say so myself, brings so much joy to my heart. I’ll never forget that game and the atmosphere of being one step closer to making our dreams come true! Forever grateful for Coach Woods giving us the opportunity to be here and making us part of MSU family.
The worst sporting experience would have to be our post-season run with UK when we lost to the University of Connecticut (UCONN) in the championship game. My son and I were part of all the post-season travel. From Atlanta, to Indiana, to Dallas, we made every trip cheering on the Cats. I was so excited for us to celebrate our first National Championship as a family. We came up short that year and I’ll always imagine how special it would have been for us to experience that win together.
How does your coach motivate you? Vice versa?
When our son, Bentley, was born I worked and we tried daycare. We soon discovered it wasn’t what was best for our little family. Preston was encouraging and supportive in whatever I decided to do. He communicated that we would make it work if I wanted to continue with my career or we would sacrifice and make things work if I wanted to stay home. He always supports me 100% in whatever I want to do and makes me feel like I’m the best at anything I set my mind to, even if it’s doing the laundry!
Like any profession, coaching has ups and downs. Over the years we’ve seen more highs than lows, but I can tell when he walks through the door if it has been a low. I’m encouraging through my words and give my coach “pep-talks,” as we refer to them. I can tell when he needs to be built up, but he’ll be the first to tell you that I also show him tough love and tell him the truth even when it’s not what he wants to hear.
What one word or phrase can you use to describe your uncommon life? Explain.
Bittersweet. With every win, you understand what the opposing team is dealing with in their loss. With every new job/move you are leaving behind friends that are more like family, a house that you’ve made into a home. With every team you beat out in the tournament you know that a senior has played his last game, or a coach will be looking for a new job. With all the phone calls made during dinner, the time spent away recruiting or at practice, or with the players working on life lessons that have nothing to do with basketball, when we get that win or you see a player give your husband a hug and then hug you, it makes all the sacrifices and time spent away from each other worth while!
What are three things that your experience as a coach’s spouse has taught you?
Patience – I’m a Type A personality, so I like things planned out and being on time, etc. We all know those two things are rare occurrences in this business. I’ve learned to not sweat the small stuff and if my husband says he will be home by 7, I add at least an hour and try not to be surprised if he gets home even later than that.
Independence – I can’t wait on my husband to be part of everything; if I did I’d never do anything. I find myself being the third wheel on dinner dates with our friends, taking our son to family functions alone, and using YouTube to learn how to do simple home improvement tasks. I do my best to make time for family and friends even if my husband can’t be a part of it.
Sacrifice – Coaching has always been Preston’s dream, so it has always been understood that we’d do whatever we needed to do to make this dream a reality. In the process, his dream became OUR dream and I’m invested as much as he is. As a coach’s wife and now a stay-at-home-momma, I sacrifice my career aspirations, my wants, and sometimes even a shower to do what is best for my family.
I’m fairly new to this life although we were at the University of Kentucky for several years – this is our first official year as a coach, but my biggest piece of advice for other spouses would be to make time for you. To help our husbands be the best, we have to be the best versions of ourselves and we can only do that by taking care of our needs as well. We sacrifice so much, we deserve a little guilt free “me” time!
Tigh and Preston have known each other for quite some time now, but I have not formally met Misty or Preston. I genuinely agree with EVERYTHING Misty mentioned. It is bittersweet knowing your team will advance and the other team has seniors that may never play the game again. I also agree with making sacrifices for the one you love.
Thank you, again, to Misty for her Spouse Spotlight!
The Uncommon Wife.